The World According To Leo

Very often, we think of possible future scenarios we might find ourselves in and then think about how we would react when that moment happened in real life. Shy of just over a year ago, i went through quite a devastating break-up and spent a lot of time processing it all - because i wanted to deal with it properly. A large part of dealing with it, was through writing about it - so if you've stumbled across my blog befofe, you'd be familiar with some of the content. During this time, i would occasionally think about how i would react if i ever had to run into my ex- or his illicit lover - yes, the guy he cheated on me with. Johannesburg is a big place.  Since the day i walked out of that house, I have never bumped into my ex anywhere. We also move in different circles and live in (very) different neighbourhoods so the changes seemed slim, but there is always still a possibility. And even though a Joburg is a big place, the inevitable was bound to happen at some point. And that ...

In the end, only three things matter.

Healing a broken heart is one of the most difficult tasks to do sometimes. Some people have this ability to move from one relationship to the next without that “recovery period” - where others take weeks or months or even years to get over someone. I chose very early on in my recovery process that i will take it day by day: i wont rush it but i wont drag it out either. One moment you’re sad, the next incredibly happy - and then… then there are those moments of contentedness. The moment where everything is just fine. You’re not sad. You’re not unhappy. You’re relaxed, at ease, satisfied. Right now i am content. I have so many inspirational people that i surround myself with at the moment. Do that! Surround yourself with positive, inspirational people. Remove the negative soul-draining leeches from your life. Do what makes YOU happy! “Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads i...

There comes a time in your life when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living!

I havent written in a while… I’ve been busy. But i have so much on my mind that tonight i felt the need to write something again. I felt the need to tell the world how grateful i am to be me. Here i am, sitting outside on my patio… Candles burning in hanging lanterns and on the bistro table i’m sitting at, the light of a citronella lanterns flickers away the possibility of any mosquito coming near me. We all dread those little fuckers… The sound of the night is accompanied with a soft piece of opera - O Mio Babbino Caro - playing in the background. All else is quiet. So is my mind. Those anxious, sad, angry, upset feelings that i felt a few months ago are gone. I now feel content. I now feel what i’ve been telling myself all along - “It will get better”. And it does. Yes, i still have moments where i think of you but they’re getting fewer and further apart. Is this what ‘Out of sight, out of mind’ does? One moment you were my world. The next moment, BAM! In ...

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. And letting go is the only way to move forward.

Adapt yourself to the life you have been given; and truly love the people with whom destiny has surrounded you. Marcus Aurelius

Sometimes you have to forget what’s gone, appreciate what still remains and look forward to what’s coming next! Unknown

Is your idea of me really what I’m about? And does it matter? A few days ago I met someone who I briefly met once, a few years ago. After some idle chitchat, the conversation started getting a bit more personal, and this person started describing their first impression of me, which he created in his head a few years back. He described me as shallow, aloof, self-absorbed, a label-queen, someone who only hangs with the A-list, who only shops at Woolies, lives from restaurant to restaurant… and the list goes on… I was initially taken aback by it but proceeded to defend myself to tell this person who I really am. As I was sitting on the grass, barefoot, with a beer in my hand, I told this person that I’m actually just a small-town boy who just happened to live in the big city. I’m down to earth, loyal, sincere, honest, well-read, well educated, I like walking barefoot, I drink beer from a bottle, I wear T-shirts and jeans and I spend time with people who are real and sincere. I do o...